Are some women so bored they need to shame moms who delivered via c-section?

There has been a lot of noise lately about what is classified as a “natural birth.” It seems there are some people who don’t regard women who have had to deliver a baby via c-section as “motherly” or as “natural” as those who have pushed them out of their vaginas.

Are you kidding me?

Are we really this bored that we now have to shame women on a matter they had no control over? I mean like any woman dreams about giving birth to her baby in an operating room, legs in stirrups, everybody in scrubs with operating lights, machines, and a whole medical team surrounding her. Let’s stop and think this through with some empathy, and compassion people. Nobody dreams about giving birth this way. So why is there this new group of elitist moms who are out there hell bent and determined to make these moms feel less than.

I don’t get it.

It’s gross, and it’s actually embarrassing for any woman/person who has taken up the crusade of birthing distinction. Like who honestly cares how a couple gets to bring a healthy, live, baby into this world? Why are we even comparing what makes for a legitimate birth and a not so legitimate birth? Honestly. I’m asking this with a straight face and confusion in my heart. Why is this a topic? Who honestly fucking cares? It makes me go more than “hmmm” it makes me wonder about the sanity of the people out there telling women that they can’t call a c-section delivery a “natural birth.” I get what they’re saying, and as far as them saying that it isn’t a natural birth, they technically aren’t wrong, so I can see where they’re coming from. But for me it really comes down to why are we even discussing this? Why are there some people out there who seemingly get joy from knocking other people, strangers, I might add, down? It’s not like them giving birth via a c-section takes anything away from your vag pushing table shitting self. I mean you still did that. Yay you. Kudos. Bravo. Well done, and whatever else accolades you all feel you need over the women who didn’t deliver a baby in the exact same way that you did.

But for me it’s always going to come down to this: What the hell difference does it make in your life if a woman gave birth to a beautiful healthy baby through medical intervention in the way of a c-section? You need to look at yourselves in the mirror and ask yourselves why would you want to spend any time slamming another woman in this fashion anyway? Like honestly, what is missing from your life?

To all the warrior women, who must have been scared as hell when halfway during their delivery, or who maybe even knew all along that this was going to be the way their baby came into the world. I salute you. You had a major surgery and still managed to get up with your baby to feed it, to care for it, and to bond with it. In my mom opinion you’re the real rock stars, and I say congratulations to all of you.

xo Shantelle