Let me begin by saying I’m not a Kardashian fan. I don’t watch the show. I don’t buy their products, and I do everything I can to encourage two of my three daughters TO NOT support the family who became famous off a sex tape. I was however a Taylor Swift fan. Huge fan. I’ve bought her albums for my daughters, (I also know the lyrics to most of her songs)purchased the best tickets money could buy for her concerts, (I’ve even accompanied them to two of her shows)and all her swag that went with it. One year I went to great lengths to secure coveted, impossible to attain meet and greet tickets with her, for our youngest, and a friend who was celebrating her fifth year of being cancer free.
You get the point. I was team Swift all the way.
Then something happened. Her story, the victim card she pulls out whenever the tables of “meanness” get turned on her, started getting old. And I began to “go hmmm” about how one lovely girl, could be being caused so much pain by every boy she ever dated, and every celebrity friend she ever had. Mathematically how was this possible???
I have a saying I use on my girls whenever they seem to have hit a rough patch in life. Where it just doesn’t seem as if any of their relationships are going well. There’s bickering, backstabbing, arguments, and the like. Once the “everybody is SO MEAN TO ME” dialogue runs on a week or two, I kindly, and lovingly look them in the eyes and ask them this one simple question: “What is the common denominator here?”
They would reply; “What do you mean?”
“Well what is the common thread in all the relationship drama you’re having with multiple people?” When our girls were younger they would answer, “I don’t know.” As they got older, they would remember these conversations from before, and would simply reply.
Yes. YOU. Wherever you go you, there you are. So if all your relationships are going south, or have a habit of ending badly, what is the common denominator?
You see Taylor, if so many people are saying the same things about you, and the general consensus is that you have a tendency to behave in a way that has created a pattern. I think it’s a good time to sit down, shut up, and regroup. Find a way to come back and respond with some humility, and not like this:
“Where is the video of Kanye telling me he was going to call me “that bitch” in his song? It doesn’t exist because it never happened. You don’t get to control someone’s emotional response to being called “that bitch” in front of the entire world. Of course I wanted to like the song. I wanted to believe Kanye when he told me that I would love the song. I wanted us to have a friendly relationship. He promised to play the song for me, but he never did. While I wanted to be supportive of Kanye on the phone call, you cannot “approve” a song you haven’t heard. Being falsely painted as a liar when I was never given the full story or played any part of the song is character assassination. I would very much like to be excluded from this narrative, one that I have never asked to be a part of, since 2009.”
All right, I would like to break her comment down just a little bit:
1) “that bitch” well Taylor, you can be heard during the phone call telling him to write the song/lyrics in a manner that rings true for him, to express himself in the way the events unfolded for him. So you did actually give him carte blanche. No??
2) You have called every one of your ex’s so many things in every song you’ve ever written, hell even poor Camilla Belle suffered your wrath in a song calling her out for stealing Joe Jonas from you, in BETTER THAN REVENGE. A song that I might point out could quite possibly be directly linked to the current state of her career. I suggest you go back and listen to that song, just for starters, if we’re going to address the “you don’t get to” portion of your statement that addresses the negative impact lyrics can have on a person when presented on the World Stage. You’ve built an entire career on exactly this. Shit, you even call boys from your teen years out by spelling their names in code in the words of your songs in your album sleeves. Wonder how these boys, who are now men, feel about that? Where was they’re right to “song approval”???
3) I can’t even begin to write the names of all the people you have either attempted to, or successfully performed “character assassination” on…Katy Perry was the biggest in recent history, whom you went after via your song; BAD BLOOD. That is, up until last week when you went after your ex-lover, Calvin Harris, who proved to be a formidable man foe, who stood up for himself via social media. I totally see what Kim did here, and I have to say I back it. She saw the exchange between you, and Calvin, as her golden opportunity to jump on the “calling Taylor out” train while it still had momentum. Listen, I’ve protected my man, the love of my life against fans who insist he wears eyeliner and mascara, which he does not, on a much smaller “world stage.” Kim had, had enough and I can relate.
My motherly advice for Taylor Swift would be to get with her team of advisors. Find a way to come back out with a statement that reads a little bit more like somebody who has houses all over the world, filled with mounds of awards, and money that keeps her and those she loves in a very lux lifestyle, thanks to her ability to make character assassination so bumble gum chew worthy.
Because you can’t live in a glass house if you like throwing stones.