Why is everybody so serious part 2??? Also I'm, sadly, not having much fun with this at the moment.
I kept this in my “draft” folder because honestly, I’m in a bit of a shitty mood…I’m a Gemini, so anybody who lives with two of us knows that our mood flips every five minutes, so, me being in a shitty one is not entirely a surprise. But, the fact that I’ve had zero interest in posting for multiple days in a row says a lot, because, well this blog was meant to be fun, and it sort of isn’t these days. When I shared with Yannick, back in June 2016, that I was thinking of starting a blog, his advice to me was; “well I would turn off the comments/contact section because you know you don’t mince words, and somebody, or a bunch of somebody’s are bound to piss you off.”
I assured him that that wouldn’t be the case, that I wouldn’t read the comments, that I would leave it to my web designer to manage that element of it. And, usually I’m pretty good at it. I tend to not give a rats ass about the posts I write when they’re not emotionally connected to me. Which makes sense, right? I mean why would anybody check in on comments made about a blog about plastic surgery, when I’m so good about why I had it, and know that I would never in a million years judge anybody else you wanted it going forward. In fact, most comments that aren’t of interest to me get put in the trash. My web designer knows me, and knows what I want on my website, and what I don’t. But, the blog posts about Yannick, or my girls, those I tend to spy on. I confess, the comments from those posts are the ones I tend to check in on, to see how people react to them. Obviously, as they are with me, they tend to be more emotionally charged for other people as well; and there are a fair amount of negative comments made as well, those are the ones that get my goat. Which, since I’m a smart woman, you would think on days where I post more “intimate” blogs would be the days that I shouldn’t bother checking comments. Would be smart right? But alas, those are the days that I definitely do, and then my the gloves come off. Because, I mean I was pissed off enough to write the ranty blog in the first place, but now I’m dealing with mouthy comments…oh man, my blood begins to boil. And all of a sudden I have even more to say! It’s not because I’m hyper sensitive, it’s more to do with the fact that I’m super mouthy, so if just reading the haterade comments makes me feisty, imagine what would happen if I posted them for all of you to read the negative comments on here?? It would be a mess. So, when you say “nobody is begrudging me what I post on my website” you would be extremely surprised at how many people actually are trying to tell me what I should, and shouldn’t post on my blog. But, since these sort of comments are booted the second they come in, nobody every actually sees those.
Thank God. So just because the readers of my site don’t see all the bullshit comments that come in, doesn’t mean they aren’t happening. I don’t want my comment section to be filled with negativity, judgement, and criticism; which is why you, the readers, if you’re reading the other comments will only see positive messages being posted. Believe me, sadly this doesn’t mean that there are no negative comments being made to me, about me, my writing, or my opinions. It just means that I made a decision when I started this website back in June 2016 that I wasn’t going to add fuel, to the bottom of the barrel of humanity, fire, by allowing, supporting, or encouraging assholes with nothing better to do than dump shit, and talk shit against people (me in this instance) on the internet.
Now, hopefully this is all cleared up, and we can go back to just having fun with my daily musings once again. And to the reader who suggest that I “should be a writer” I actually already am a writer; so I’m happy that you have recognized my talent and potential.
xoxo SB