What is up with the word sorry? Why are some people so freaked out by the words “I’m sorry”??? It truly makes me “go hmmm” that so many humans seem unable to let the word roll off their tongues, and often times when you finally get the apology, it can feel somewhat hollow, forced, insincere even.
What gives? It’s not that difficult a word to use. I’ve met many people who won’t say sorry. They have their reasons, none of which I understand, one explanation I received was that “sorry is just an excuse for others to behave badly again, in the future.” Well I guess that is accurate if the said sorry deliverer continues behaving in that same way that initiated the need for the apology in the first place. Which then in my opinion is a much different problem, to me that’s a character issue, not an issue with the word itself.
Me, I have no problem with saying sorry.
I have to do it a lot, because, truth be told, I’m a bit of a pain in the ass.
I have a big mouth, always have had, and I have many opinions, like lots, and lots, and lots of them. So combine my big mouth with being hugely opinionated, makes my sorry quota go through the roof. But the good thing with me, is that when I say I’m sorry, I really, truly deeply mean it. And I also set my mind to CHANGE so that I don’t have to say sorry for the same thing day, after day, after day. I’m also not the sort of person who behaves badly, or lashes out with intent. I’m not perfect, so to say I never commit the same offense would be a flat out lie, but my heart is always in the right place once I realize I’ve f’d up. Most of my need for handing out apologies comes from being passionate about something, and then I get on a roll, sometimes not thinking before I speak, and then, BAM. Hurt feelings.
Justin Bieber has a song all about it; “Is it too late now to say sorry? Cause I’m missing more than just your body.” He ponders to an ex-lover whom he did dirt. I do have a teeny tiny bit of advice for Justin: “bringing up the fact that you miss having your business in her business may not be the best way to get a lady to forgive you. I’m just saying.”
Chicago seemed to be a band that really had a hard time with the word, even to the point where the lead singer needed to be held by the person he hurt while he apologized; “Hold me now, it’s hard for me to say I’m sorry.” Really buddy, grow a set, you’re not the person who was upset by your actions, why do you need to be held?
Elton John sang; “Oh it seems to me. That sorry seems to be the hardest word.” I suppose Sir Elton had a qualm with a lover and was waiting, and waiting, and waiting in vain for what he felt was his due apology.
So whether you are somebody, like me, who is often the one saying “I’m sorry”, or you are a person who finds themselves on the receiving end of an “I’m sorry”. Just remember this, and trust me when I tell you, it’s much better to have the word in your vocabulary than not. Nobody has ever been hurt by “I’m sorry.”
Big love, and if I’ve ever offended you in any way, I’m sorry.